There are a lot of myths and stigmas going around about bar regulars. It’s time to find out if there is any truth behind them.
Have you ever noticed that if you frequent the bar too often, you are considered strange? Why are you here all the time? Why don’t you drink at home?
Well some people don’t like to drink at home or alone. Some people enjoy the social aspect of being in a bar setting.
Bar regulars enjoy going to the bar to share secrets and get the honest truth. Your favorite show growing up was Cheers, and you seek to go to the place where everyone knows your name.
We covered myths about bartenders before and now we discuss the folks in front of the bar.
Here are the some of biggest myths about bar regulars.
Myth: All of the bartenders and managers know who you are. Your favorite drink and seat are waiting for you when you get there, and everyone knows more about your personal life than you do. They realize when you’ve had enough and got your home address saved when it’s time to call you an Uber. So maybe bar regulars are all drunks.
Reality: Nah… Not all people go to the bar on a regular basis to get drunk. Some love to confess their sins to their favorite bartender or bitch about their day at work to anyone who will listen. Others love hanging around other bar patrons and talk about everything from politics, sports, relationships and so much more. The bar is actually a really cool place to make new friends.
Myth: You’re at the bar all the time because you have no real friends. Your home life sucks and you come to the bar everyday to drink your pain away. Bad people frequent the bar and if you go all the time, you must be one of them. Of course bar regulars have no social life. Right?
Reality: Well… Human beings are social animals and having a good social life is important for our mental health. But instead of socializing, we work, go home, watch tv, post on social media, repeat. Without positive, strong, and real-life relationships, both our minds and our bodies will fall apart. Yes the bar has weirdos and alcoholics, but so does your job. At least at the bar the truths are not hidden.
Myth: How can you be at the bar all the time if you have a job? You can be seen during the day shift at 11am as well during the late night at 1am. And you are there all the time. How do you do it? You drink all day, at different times a day so when do you work? So yes most of the bar regulars are unemployed.
Reality: Nope not true... The world is more mobile now and that gives peoples the ability to work from anywhere. And if you have two options to work from anywhere, one would be an island and the other would be at the bar. So bar regulars do have jobs that allow the flexibility to work from the bar. You should try it.
Myth: If you’re at the bar all the time, day and night. That means one thing, you must be a drug dealer. And the bar is your place of work.
Reality: It’s 2017, the security is too tight at the bar to allow drug deals to happen. Okay that was an exaggeration. Seriously, just because a person is at the bar all day and night buying everyone drinks doesn’t mean a thing. They drink a lot because they are overwhelmed with how to spend that family inheritance. See it’s all about perspective. Drug dealers are too busy to hang out at the bar all the time.
Myth: Who did you break up with this week? Is your wife cheating on you again? What did you get fired for this time? You are at the bar on a regular basis because your life is in constant turmoil and you need the bar to help process it all.
Reality: All people are emotionally screwed up. At least at the bar you can accept that truth and deal with the issues. And what better way to figure things out than with others who are in shittier situations.
Myth: You are just there to pick up chicks or dudes. What does your husband think about you being at the bar all the time?
Reality: Yeah so what. Everyone at the bar knows you so if you are a scumbag, everyone would know it and warn the hookup. So try again.
Myth: All you do is sit at the bar alone and stare at the bartenders all night. You hope one day you get lucky and you will take one home.
Reality: There are a few signs to determine if you are a creep or not:
You ask awkward questions
You won’t give up
You don't understand personal space
You’re too eager
Whether you like it or not, the world is filled with creeps. So if you consistently do at least 4 of the 7, you are a creep.
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For many, the bar is a place of comfort. You can walk into one you’ve never been to, and somehow feel like you’ve been there before. And with new technology like the BOTY app, people are connecting at the bar in a whole new way, making the bar more like a second home than ever.
One major reason for this phenomenon? Every bar has 6 types of people who frequent them, and without realizing it, you’re most likely one of them.
Here are the 6 types of regulars at every bar - let’s see which one you turn out to be.
While the bar lends a perfect way to meet new people, there are those who are too anxious to talk to the person next to them - and there are those that would just prefer not to. These types will likely fixate on one or two things, namely: their drink, their phone, or whatever happens to be on the TV, even if it’s an infomercial. They might be too shy to start a conversation with a stranger, but they’ll likely open up after a few drinks if you approach them.
The king or queen of chit chat, this regular thrives on the energy of bar - they might even bring the energy up a few notches. This person isn’t just at the bar to drink, they’re there to meet people and talk about almost anything. They will be the person to buy you a drink before you’ve even exchanged more than a couple sentences, and they’ll be the ones to tell you stories (real or made up) all night if you let them.
This regular appreciates the delicate craft that is mixology. Ever see the person who spends about 4 minutes more than most looking at the cocktail menu? This drinker is looking to be dazzled by what the bartender can concoct, and they expect perfection. The foodie of the bar scene, this person can many times be a hybrid - sharing qualities with either the Quiet One, the Social One, or even the Flirt (read below).
Whether it’s a sports bar or not, this regular has a goal - and that’s to drink a cold something while their eyeballs never leave the screen with the game on it. They’ll often ask the bartender to switch to the game of their choice (which is questionable bar etiquette), or will situate themselves at a bar they know plays the match they’re looking for. They can be quiet or rowdy, but for this regular, it’s always about watching the game.
Every bar has at least one flirt in it at any given moment. This person loves chatting people up and making glances that will either excite you or make you pretty uncomfortable. The flirt can be a guy or gal who’s trying to get lucky or maybe has hopes of meeting their next potential relationship partner. This regular can be kind of clingy or they can be a lot of fun to hang out with. Who knows, your next girlfriend or boyfriend might just be the Flirt you meet at your local pub.
Yes, we all come to the bar to have a drink or two, but this regular takes drinking to a different level. While you might be finishing your second beer, this person has managed to polish off 4 in the same time span. They can also outlast you - the Drinker regular will likely be one of the last people to leave the pub, and likely the one treating the worst hangover the next day. Whether it’s been a rough day or there’s something big to celebrate, we’ve all been this regular at least once or twice.
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