When bartenders think about how to increase their tips, not much thought typically goes into whether or not their gender helps. So do women or men make more in tips due to their sex?


gender affect tips


There is a stigma among men that beautiful ladies make more money than men. And many female bartenders believe they are underpaid compared to their male counterparts. So what is really the truth behind this matter?


The Battle Of The Sexes


In Render Food Magazine, they stated, in their article about servers, “The idea that women make more in tips due to sex appeal is an enduring cultural myth.”

Rain Dove Blog did a study one night as the ‘Battle of The Sexes’ at a local bar in Brooklyn and at the end of the night, the male had around $100 more in tips than the female. 

In this article on waitbutwhy.com it stated one of the six proven ways to get better tips was,  “ideally, be a slender, attractive, big-breasted blond in your 30s.” They based this off a scientific study down by Michael Lynn Ph.D. To view the study go here.

We did some research and the jury is still out on whether or not gender really will increase your tips. Many articles show that men make higher tips while other articles say women make more.



The Real Truth About Gender And Tips


After our thorough investigation, we believe that gender is not the issue when it comes to tipping. There are several factors that will determine how many you make in tips whether you are female or male.


does gender affect tips


This gender debate will go on for years and years. However, the bottom line is if you do your job well, take care of your customers and interact with them you will see that you are making great tips whether you are a male or female. If gender does play a role, which we don’t believe it does, it’s only a small role. So be yourself, work hard and forget all those gender tipping stigmas.


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You are looking to have an enjoyable time at your local bar. The best times typically involve good customer service.  A good bartender tip is to know it's all about the cash.


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Bartenders know nothing about you when you first meet. The only thing they are likely to remember are how much you tipped them (if you did) and what you ordered.  

If you don't tip, chances are they won’t have fond memories of you. Bartenders determine who gets priority by those helping them earn a living. While your having fun at the bar, bartenders are working to pay the bills. The best way for you to get their attention is by taking care of them.

Check out a few things to remember when your at the bar.



Bartender Tip: Make sure they see you


If you just leave your tip on the table after they gave you your order, you never gave the bartender/customer relationship time to develop. And if they are busy, chances are they will have no idea who left the tip.

Give them a tip as soon as you order. This way, they know where it was coming from and are more likely to pay attention to you once the bar gets busy.



Bartender Tip: Provide Gratuity in Cash


Even if you plan to tip well when closing out your credit card tab, remember that bartenders don’t know that. You just spent your entire time at the bar not giving the bartender any assurances that you are not cheap and plan to tip well.

A good strategy is to pay for your first few drinks in cash. Even if you plan to use a credit card to pay the entirety of the bill. This shows the bartender you appreciate them and their service.  

Be mindful, it’s not always the same bartenders taking care of the same individual. Oftentimes credit card tips end up being split amongst all the bartenders during that shift. So even if you tip well, it won’t matter to that particular bartender since they only get a part of that tip. Cash may be split too, but at least they will be able to take home those tips the same day.  


Bartender Tip: Designate One Person to Buy Drinks


Don’t confuse the bartender. If you’re with a group, try to assign one person in particular to buy the drinks. The bartender probably has no clue who you’re with. They aren’t going to acknowledge you as being with your friend who just tipped them 10 minutes ago.  

If you plan to rotate who takes care of the drinks in any given outing, be sure to introduce the “new person.” The bartender need to know your friends of friends who tipped well last time. As time goes on, the bartender will eventually remember your group and know they can count on you all as reliable customers for bartender tips. This ensures that all of you get well taken care of by that bartender whenever you are out.  



Bartender Tip: Cash is King


Remember when you tip via credit card, that income is taxable and the bartenders don’t make as much. Understand they may not be able to take the tips home for the night. And when you mess with a bartender’s money, that takes the excitement and fun out of the job. If you are headed to the bar, take some cash and look forward to having a better time out.


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Bartending is an awesome job, but understand all the challenges with it.  Before choosing it as a career, please consider your bartender time.

Standing for 10-12hr shifts at a time with no break is exhausting. And doing that with no customers is even worse.  



Your pay comes mainly from tips, so no customers means no money. And that is a big waste of time. You can’t purchase or borrow more, so time is a limited resource that runs out every day.

Use it wisely.  

Bartender Time is Money


You Can Make Good Money

6 Ways to Double Your Tips


The money in bartending is lucrative but may not be consistent.  It depends greatly on the establishment you work for, the loyalty of your customer base, and the hours you work.  The shifts you get and the customers you retain greatly impact how much you actually earn.  

People are more than willing to take your time so you have to figure out what your bartender time is worth to you.  

Bartenders and other tipped workers get screwed royally.  Only seven states require employers to pay tipped workers the same minimum wage as workers who do not receive tips.  The United States federal government requires a wage of at least $2.13 per hour be paid to employees that receive at least $30 per month in tips.

If wages and tips do not equal the federal minimum wage of $7.25 per hour during any pay period, the employers are supposed to increase cash wages to compensate.  The sad reality is a lot of employers don't do it.  


Bartender Time Management


So, you are a bartender and love what you do and enjoy the people you meet and work with.  You just hate that you get no benefits or leave. And more importantly, you work many long hours, and not compensated for your time.  

What's even worse is when your employer over schedules the shift. You split tips with other bartenders when so many bartenders didn't need to be there in the first place.  Employers are not on the hook for any hourly costs, so they over schedule bartenders without any repercussions. Maybe if you understand the importance of bartender time, they would manage the schedule better.   

Treat Bartenders with RESPECT


Time Isn't On Your Side


People don't seem to understand what goes into a bartending shift.  The hours of prep work, clean up and dealing with demanding people who have no idea of the importance of bartender time and responsibilities.  

A bartender works at 10am but the restaurant does not open until 12pm. The restaurant closes at 11pm but the bartender doesn't leave until 1am.  That is 4 hours of unpaid services. Keep in mind effective bartenders split shifts with ineffective ones and also has to pay the barback.  Your tips cover the time that you interact with customers, so 4 hours of free labor never hurt anyone.  #sarcasm

Bartender Time is Money


Bartending is not all bad.  Your income is comprised mostly of tips in cash so there is no way for the government to know how much you received. That means you get free money with cash tips. Don't tell the IRS that.  #sarcasm 

Bartending is easy to get into and the job is fun. The work schedules are flexible, and you get to meet some great people.  It’s not all bad but it could be a lot better.



Time is Money

No matter how you look at it, there are only 24 hours in a day. Realize that money isn’t the most important resource, time is. Money comes and goes and you can make it through a variety of resources. But once time is gone, it’s gone for good. If a bartender spends 12 of those 24 hours working at the establishment, there should be compensated for your time.  

A good bartender consistently brings in the regulars and wears company apparel. They promote the establishment, set the mood, and make sure everyone has a good time. There is a price to pay for that and it ain’t just in tips.  


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Bartending is often referred to as a means to an end. You hear it all the time when people say they’re only bartending until they get back on their feet.


Quit Bartending buy Why


“I didn’t go to college and get a degree in Biology to be no bartender,” says the 10 year bartender veteran. “We didn’t take out all those loans to pay for college,” says the parents of the 10 year bartender vet.

Let’s be honest it’s one of those jobs you get stuck in but how come?   

We have met bartenders with no formal education. We have met bartenders who own their own businesses and have advanced degrees. Some have other jobs that pay them significantly more. Yet they can’t seem to escape that 'short-term' bartending job.  

The barriers to entry are not hard so it’s easy to start bartending to make some extra money. And you can do so with the comfort of knowing this is not for the long-term. Or so you think? A lot of bartending jobs come with no benefits, no career development plan and no prospects for future growth. Yet it is still a distinctly rewarding job for so many and people pick the career in droves.



The People



When you bartend you will encounter the most interesting people. You can be standing in front a homeless person to a CEO. You interact with folks who celebrate the highest of highs to those who want to get through tough situations. And regardless of his or her status in life, they end up in your presence.

At times, being a bartender is the equivalent of being a performer on stage. The more you put on a show, the more people enjoy and tip you. One night you are a comedian telling jokes, and on other days you may be asked to be a therapist. You get to hear all the juicy gossip and learn intimate details about people’s home life. People who drink tend to be more honest, funnier and just looking to get some things off their chest. That can be pretty addictive and hard to quit bartending.


The Money


Every day is payday. You can make great money bartending although it is highly likely you won’t be getting any benefits so you have to save your money wisely. According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, the average yearly bartender salary is only around $21k. That doesn’t sound like much, but so much of your money can go undetected by the government. So going home with $400-500 a night cash can be pretty appealing and keep you around for a while.  

The income may not be steady, but it can be significant at times. Some regulars tip big every time. And then some nights you may get that one customer who is really excited about life. They may of either hit big gambling, won the lottery or got a huge promotion. Since they got money to burn, they end up giving you a $100 tip on a $20 bill just because. This can make for a pretty awesome night.  


The Fun


Being a bartender is like being a chaperone for an adult slumber party. You oversee people at their most vulnerable moments in life. And we all know drinkers are much more fun than when they are sober. The goal of a bartender is to make sure everyone else is having fun. Oftentimes you get to see the evolution of a person real-time. They start out as sober, then a little more talkative, and ultimately become your best friend after a few shots of tequila.  

Sure if they drink too much it can become annoying. But most people do control their liquor you are the overseer of all that. And if you buy them a free drink, they may be your best friend for life. So now you are making new friends, getting tipped well and now you also have developed a new admirer. Of course this can be irritating, but everyone loved to be admired a little.   



The Freedom


The people, the money and the fun are extremely compelling reasons to never quit bartending. But I believe the main reason why it’s so hard to just exit the profession is the freedom. Sure you can go to other jobs and make more money. But none offer the freedom a bartending job offers you. Sure you have more opportunities to be a responsible adult, but who really wants that?

Bartending keeps you committed because:  


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Having been both a bartender and a server (I’m currently a combination of both), I can’t say one is necessarily better than the other.  But, there are definitely pros and cons to weigh up on either side. What are the pros and cons of bartending vs. serving at a bar or restaurant? 

There are some bartenders who would never serve, and vice versa. This is a subject people will have lots of opinions on. So, if you’re in the rare position of choosing your role in a new place, or have been offered a change in your current job, read on for some of our thoughts on each of these vital front of house positions.





Bartending vs. Serving

Ah, serving.  Almost everybody does it at least once. It truly is a great way to earn some cash while still pursuing other goals. However, just like bartending, it can be a grueling job. 

The Pros: Bartending vs. Serving


You May Get to Leave Earlier  


While bartenders often work until 4 in the morning, most serving jobs, at least in my experience, tend to have more normal hours.


Less Pressure


There can be a lot of pressure on bartending. You’re expected to create regulars, chit chat all day long, and hold down the fort should there be any issues. Sometimes serving can be a bit less emotionally taxing.


Flexible Schedule


Serving is one of the most flexible jobs out there. There’s always someone to cover you or extra shifts to pick up if you need the cash.  


The Cons: Bartending vs. Serving


Long, Long Hours


A server’s hours can be punishing. From doubles to “clopens” (when you close at night and open the next morning), this is definitely a role where you might be a bit (read: a lot) tired. 


Less Money



Depending on the place, a server may make less money than their bartending counterparts. At the bar people throw cash at you like it’s going out of style. Meanwhile, the couple on a date at table 40 may not spend as much.


Less Respect


Now, this is absolutely not to say that servers don’t deserve all the respect in the world, because they do. But, it has been my experience that bartenders are more respected by both customers and management alike.




Bartending vs. Serving

It’s not all fast cash and a whirlwind social life.  Bartending is a tough job that’s not for the faint of heart, but it can come with many rewards. 

The Pros: Bartending vs. Serving


Show Me the Money



Bartenders can make bank. I know many that make more money than the professionals they’re serving during happy hour. If you can stomach the hours and stress, working behind the stick can be extremely lucrative.


A Social Job



Bartenders get to talk all day, every day. If you work in a place with great customers and staff, it can be the perfect job for all you social butterflies. You’ll also never want for friends, or a date for that matter.


Free Time During the Day



There’s nothing quite like running errands at 2pm on a Wednesday when the rest of the world is at work. When you have your days free it’s super easy to do things like schedule doctor’s appointments and work on any other non-restaurant related goals. 


The Cons: Bartending vs. Serving


Working Very Late


Yeah, having days free is great. But, if you’re working until 4am, you might just spend them sleeping. Shift work is hard. You’ll be fighting grogginess and fatigue so taking care of yourself is key.


It’s All on You 



Sometimes it’s hard to be Ms. Personality all the time. When you’rE working behind the bar, you’re expected to not only be pleasant but actively engage with your customers. This can be tough if you’re having an off day.



People are Annoying



When you’re serving, it’s easy to walk away from a creepy customer or someone that won’t shut up. When you’re stuck behind the bar, it’s way harder to escape. You’ll see the same faces over and over again, some of which you may not love.

Have you been both a bartender and a server? Let us know your thoughts!


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Why is it so hard saving when your entire income is cash? You’d think it would be easier when you can physically see all your hard earned dough disappearing. And yet, it's infinitely harder to save when you're taking home your salary every night instead of twice a month.


Bartender Saving Saving Saving Tricks Bartender Saving Tricks


We get it, that's why we've rounded up some tricks we think will help you keep some of that green.


Deposit That Money!


First things first, you can never save if you don't actually put your money, or most of it, in the damn bank!  It’s very hard to keep track of what you're accumulating week to week when there's a constant two-way flow of cash out of your wallet.

So, we recommend designating one day a week to count up and deposit all of your money.  My "week" ends on a Tuesday.  So every Tuesday I go down to the office and count up everything I've made that week.  Then I go right to the ATM and deposit it!  By doing this consistently, you’ll actually know how much you’re making for once.  The first step to saving really is keeping track!



Pay Yourself First


You may have heard your mom tell you this before, but it really works.  Choose one bill every month, like a credit card payment.  Then, every time you pay that bill, transfer the same amount as that payment into your savings account.  After a while, this starts to add up.  This method is also a good way to save for something specific, like a vacation. It's relatively painless since you're already doling out some cash, so why not feed your own piggy bank at the same time?



Be Realistic and Relax


When I started my current job I decided to put $100 a week into savings.  I wanted to see the numbers climb quickly, but it just wasn't doable.  So, I bumped it down to $75, giving me an extra $200 as a cushion for the month.  And, if on the last day I still had that money, I put it into savings.  What we mean by relax is, don’t put too much pressure on yourself.  The most important thing is that you save consistently.  It will start to accumulate; you just have to give it time.



Buy That Coffee, But Save At the Same Time



Sometimes it’s life's little luxuries that get you through the day.  If you look forward to that double mocha frappe every afternoon, and if you can truly afford it, get it!  Then, transfer the same amount that coffee cost you into savings.  Or, put $3 into a separate part of your wallet or an envelope and watch the money pile up.  It may not seem like a lot, but at the end of the year, you could find yourself with upwards of $1000 in extra savings!



Change Your Mindset Around Money and Saving


Whenever I spend money on something frivolous, like a taxi home because I'm feeling lazy, I try to think of that expense in different terms. For instance, you may not think twice about spending that $20 on a cab three times a week, but you wouldn't go to H&M and buy twelve new T-shirts a month would you?  While the goal isn't to shame yourself, sometimes we all need a bit of perspective.



Be Consistent about Saving


We know that this can be nearly impossible when you depend on tips, but it can be done. You may have to set a slightly lower number than you originally would have liked to, in order to account for slow weeks, but if you save the same amount every week, or even every month, you'll be on your way to building a solid little nest egg.  Knowing you're secure is truly the best feeling.


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You are a bartender who lives off of tips so you know it can be difficult to maintain a bartender budget. There is a toil that comes with a job that relies mainly on tips for income.


Bartender Budget


When you deal primarily with cash, you quickly realize that in a blink of an eye it can be gone. It’s great to walk away with money every day. But if cash is the majority of your income, it’s a problem if you do not budget properly. So how does one maintain a bartender budget?


Know Your Priorities


Out of the money you make, you have to buy food, pay rent, etc. etc. You have to figure out how much you would need for bills. Then work towards reaching those goals while trying to save money at the same time.

It’s important to know your priorities. So if your rent is $900 dollars a month then you know you need to put that away from your tips. You have to ensure that you keep that roof over your head.



Automatic Deposits 


Take away 10-15 percent of all the tips and deposit them into your bank account. You can even set up two accounts, one for bills and one for savings.

If you plan to save 15% of your income, put 10% away to cover bills and 5% to cover savings. By doing this you are saving a little each day. You are building up money not only for necessities like groceries and rent but also in case of an emergency.


Keep a Basic Spreadsheet helps with the Bartender Budget


I know it may seem old fashioned but try keeping a spreadsheet or even just a journal of every dollar you make. Click here for a sample to download and use. Make sure you write down the date and hours you worked and then the amount of tips you earned for the day.

By doing this you can see how much you are making per month. This also shows if there are any variations to your pay on a monthly basis. If you start tracking your earnings, you will appreciate and take better care of your money.


Use Online Banking for your Bartender Budget


Try to see if your bank has online banking. With online banking it is easy to maintain and see your balance on a daily bases. This allows you to keep track of your money and see if you need to pick up extra shifts if your balance is low.

Set goals, track and check daily.

If you need to earn more, put in more hours. But if you never know, it’s hard to step things up if need be to meet your monthly expenses and savings goals.



Resist Temptation


I know that it is tempting when you come home with all of that cash. You can just spend it on things you want or the first thing that flashes in your face. But what many of us don’t realize is how fast that money can go. Try not to spend the money as soon as you get it, instead set aside a certain amount for recreational things like the movies or going out with your family and friends.

Being a bartender is not an easy job. Most of the bartenders I have spoken to say that the job makes up for itself with the tips they earn and the people they meet. The problem is keeping the money, having enough to pay the bills, and saving enough for emergencies. Just remember, deposit a chunk each night, know your priorities and keep track of what you earn. If you this, you should be able to live comfortably while enjoying being a bartender.


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