These are the people who always pay tribute to their favorite watering hole. They build relationships with bartenders and develop strong bonds with other regulars.
Whenever you think of regulars, you think about the TV show Cheers. The song pops into your head, “Sometimes you want to go. Where everybody knows your name, and they're always glad you came.”
The key to becoming a bar regular is to be regular, however there are several other ways to reach that status.
First off you have to discover a local bar that feels like home. Be sure it’s in a safe environment and filled with people you like hanging around on a daily basis.
Next you must decide how often you want to visit the bar, what time of the day works best, and what will be your regular bar order. Bartenders always remember you by these things, especially your favorite drink.
Once you start attending regularly, either sit close to or at the bar. Being close to all the action will force the bartenders and other regulars to remember who you are. If you sit too far away, chance are you will be forgotten.
Make sure you engage with the bartenders and other regulars so you become a familiar face. Stay away from controversial topics and instead discuss things like the weather, music, movies and sports. Don’t get too personal too soon and always be cool, calm and respectable.
Bartenders only remember those who tip well and those who don’t. It’s how they earn a living so don’t mess with their money. If you tip poorly or not at all, they will talk bad about you, this hurts your chances of being recognized as one of the regulars.
Don’t get too drunk and be obnoxious. Flirting is okay but not all the time. Avoid conversations about politics and religion as you don’t want to offend people. Be neighborly and that will create a welcoming atmosphere at the bar.
Becoming a regular at a bar is as simple as making new friends. Just be yourself, be consistent, and you will be a regular in no time.
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There are a lot of myths and stigmas going around about bar regulars. It’s time to find out if there is any truth behind them.
Have you ever noticed that if you frequent the bar too often, you are considered strange? Why are you here all the time? Why don’t you drink at home?
Well some people don’t like to drink at home or alone. Some people enjoy the social aspect of being in a bar setting.
Bar regulars enjoy going to the bar to share secrets and get the honest truth. Your favorite show growing up was Cheers, and you seek to go to the place where everyone knows your name.
We covered myths about bartenders before and now we discuss the folks in front of the bar.
Here are the some of biggest myths about bar regulars.
Myth: All of the bartenders and managers know who you are. Your favorite drink and seat are waiting for you when you get there, and everyone knows more about your personal life than you do. They realize when you’ve had enough and got your home address saved when it’s time to call you an Uber. So maybe bar regulars are all drunks.
Reality: Nah… Not all people go to the bar on a regular basis to get drunk. Some love to confess their sins to their favorite bartender or bitch about their day at work to anyone who will listen. Others love hanging around other bar patrons and talk about everything from politics, sports, relationships and so much more. The bar is actually a really cool place to make new friends.
Myth: You’re at the bar all the time because you have no real friends. Your home life sucks and you come to the bar everyday to drink your pain away. Bad people frequent the bar and if you go all the time, you must be one of them. Of course bar regulars have no social life. Right?
Reality: Well… Human beings are social animals and having a good social life is important for our mental health. But instead of socializing, we work, go home, watch tv, post on social media, repeat. Without positive, strong, and real-life relationships, both our minds and our bodies will fall apart. Yes the bar has weirdos and alcoholics, but so does your job. At least at the bar the truths are not hidden.
Myth: How can you be at the bar all the time if you have a job? You can be seen during the day shift at 11am as well during the late night at 1am. And you are there all the time. How do you do it? You drink all day, at different times a day so when do you work? So yes most of the bar regulars are unemployed.
Reality: Nope not true... The world is more mobile now and that gives peoples the ability to work from anywhere. And if you have two options to work from anywhere, one would be an island and the other would be at the bar. So bar regulars do have jobs that allow the flexibility to work from the bar. You should try it.
Myth: If you’re at the bar all the time, day and night. That means one thing, you must be a drug dealer. And the bar is your place of work.
Reality: It’s 2017, the security is too tight at the bar to allow drug deals to happen. Okay that was an exaggeration. Seriously, just because a person is at the bar all day and night buying everyone drinks doesn’t mean a thing. They drink a lot because they are overwhelmed with how to spend that family inheritance. See it’s all about perspective. Drug dealers are too busy to hang out at the bar all the time.
Myth: Who did you break up with this week? Is your wife cheating on you again? What did you get fired for this time? You are at the bar on a regular basis because your life is in constant turmoil and you need the bar to help process it all.
Reality: All people are emotionally screwed up. At least at the bar you can accept that truth and deal with the issues. And what better way to figure things out than with others who are in shittier situations.
Myth: You are just there to pick up chicks or dudes. What does your husband think about you being at the bar all the time?
Reality: Yeah so what. Everyone at the bar knows you so if you are a scumbag, everyone would know it and warn the hookup. So try again.
Myth: All you do is sit at the bar alone and stare at the bartenders all night. You hope one day you get lucky and you will take one home.
Reality: There are a few signs to determine if you are a creep or not:
You ask awkward questions
You won’t give up
You don't understand personal space
You’re too eager
Whether you like it or not, the world is filled with creeps. So if you consistently do at least 4 of the 7, you are a creep.
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So there is a bar that you really want to go, but you don’t have anyone who will go with you. It’s a Saturday night and you don’t want to sit at home but like many times before, you don’t have plans. You heard there is something cool going on at that bar but your friends aren’t into it. Then you just think, “I could always go alone, right?”
Many people think about going to the bar alone but they never actually do it or might have gone out alone once and felt uncomfortable. Here, we will talk about the reasons for going solo and how to do it the right way.
Many people mistakenly assume that going out alone is awkward but actually doing it by yourself isn’t bad at all. Here are some of the amazing benefits of going alone.
You can meet more people when you are alone since you don’t have to spend most of the time with the people you came with. Being alone will motivate you to socialize because if you want to talk to someone, the only one that can make it happen is you!
You can go to any bar you want, any time you want. This is not possible if you only go out with friends.
It’s a great way to practice your social skills and learn how to start/hold conversations with strangers. You can choose a bar with a lively vibe and communicate as much as you want and leave when you want to.
You can go anywhere on your own terms. You don’t have to stay at the bar if you’re tired when your friends aren’t tired. In addition, you won’t be late arriving at the bar because one of your friends needs hours to get ready.
When you are at the bar, you can ask someone if they could recommend a favorite drink. It is a great conversation starter and you can easily ask more questions, like how long they’ve been going to the bar or where they’re from, etc. If you’re a tourist in another country and you don’t speak the language well, you can ask someone to help you read the menu, which is also a great way to start a conversation.
If you’re feeling hesitant about starting conversations with strangers, let them approach you. Make eye-contact and smile. It is a simple and effective trick because it shows others that you are friendly. And remember: confidence attracts.
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For many, the bar is a place of comfort. You can walk into one you’ve never been to, and somehow feel like you’ve been there before. And with new technology like the BOTY app, people are connecting at the bar in a whole new way, making the bar more like a second home than ever.
One major reason for this phenomenon? Every bar has 6 types of people who frequent them, and without realizing it, you’re most likely one of them.
Here are the 6 types of regulars at every bar - let’s see which one you turn out to be.
While the bar lends a perfect way to meet new people, there are those who are too anxious to talk to the person next to them - and there are those that would just prefer not to. These types will likely fixate on one or two things, namely: their drink, their phone, or whatever happens to be on the TV, even if it’s an infomercial. They might be too shy to start a conversation with a stranger, but they’ll likely open up after a few drinks if you approach them.
The king or queen of chit chat, this regular thrives on the energy of bar - they might even bring the energy up a few notches. This person isn’t just at the bar to drink, they’re there to meet people and talk about almost anything. They will be the person to buy you a drink before you’ve even exchanged more than a couple sentences, and they’ll be the ones to tell you stories (real or made up) all night if you let them.
This regular appreciates the delicate craft that is mixology. Ever see the person who spends about 4 minutes more than most looking at the cocktail menu? This drinker is looking to be dazzled by what the bartender can concoct, and they expect perfection. The foodie of the bar scene, this person can many times be a hybrid - sharing qualities with either the Quiet One, the Social One, or even the Flirt (read below).
Whether it’s a sports bar or not, this regular has a goal - and that’s to drink a cold something while their eyeballs never leave the screen with the game on it. They’ll often ask the bartender to switch to the game of their choice (which is questionable bar etiquette), or will situate themselves at a bar they know plays the match they’re looking for. They can be quiet or rowdy, but for this regular, it’s always about watching the game.
Every bar has at least one flirt in it at any given moment. This person loves chatting people up and making glances that will either excite you or make you pretty uncomfortable. The flirt can be a guy or gal who’s trying to get lucky or maybe has hopes of meeting their next potential relationship partner. This regular can be kind of clingy or they can be a lot of fun to hang out with. Who knows, your next girlfriend or boyfriend might just be the Flirt you meet at your local pub.
Yes, we all come to the bar to have a drink or two, but this regular takes drinking to a different level. While you might be finishing your second beer, this person has managed to polish off 4 in the same time span. They can also outlast you - the Drinker regular will likely be one of the last people to leave the pub, and likely the one treating the worst hangover the next day. Whether it’s been a rough day or there’s something big to celebrate, we’ve all been this regular at least once or twice.
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