When bartenders think about how to increase their tips, not much thought typically goes into whether or not their gender helps. So do women or men make more in tips due to their sex?


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There is a stigma among men that beautiful ladies make more money than men. And many female bartenders believe they are underpaid compared to their male counterparts. So what is really the truth behind this matter?


The Battle Of The Sexes


In Render Food Magazine, they stated, in their article about servers, “The idea that women make more in tips due to sex appeal is an enduring cultural myth.”

Rain Dove Blog did a study one night as the ‘Battle of The Sexes’ at a local bar in Brooklyn and at the end of the night, the male had around $100 more in tips than the female. 

In this article on waitbutwhy.com it stated one of the six proven ways to get better tips was,  “ideally, be a slender, attractive, big-breasted blond in your 30s.” They based this off a scientific study down by Michael Lynn Ph.D. To view the study go here.

We did some research and the jury is still out on whether or not gender really will increase your tips. Many articles show that men make higher tips while other articles say women make more.



The Real Truth About Gender And Tips


After our thorough investigation, we believe that gender is not the issue when it comes to tipping. There are several factors that will determine how many you make in tips whether you are female or male.


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This gender debate will go on for years and years. However, the bottom line is if you do your job well, take care of your customers and interact with them you will see that you are making great tips whether you are a male or female. If gender does play a role, which we don’t believe it does, it’s only a small role. So be yourself, work hard and forget all those gender tipping stigmas.


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Ok, let me preface this by saying that I know tipping is an odd thing. It’s a strange cultural quirk that can be difficult to understand and easily lends itself to criticism. It’s not a perfect system.

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Instead, it’s a tradition with problematic roots that we have crafted minimum wage laws around and are now somewhat bound to. However, in this article I am hoping to make the argument that tipping is good for the consumer. Gasp! I know right? Here goes!

Disclaimer: I know not all servers are good servers and there are some pretty bad bartenders. I also know that tipping can be an inherently unfair system that should be replaced by one that works better. But, until then, you should just do it.




It’s Nice When People Are Nice to You


You know how you can go into a restaurant at 11:59 and still get dinner even though the kitchen closes in literally one minute? That’s great and we all love the ability to grab a late meal or drink. However, these things are all possible because of tipping. You know who isn’t going to stay late and serve you?  Someone who’s not being tipped.  

Part of tipping culture is that it creates an expectation of friendliness and congeniality from the server to the patron because the employee knows that they’re money isn’t a guarantee. Without this, there’s really no reason for staying late as their hourly wage presumably wouldn’t make it worth it.  

Although research has shown that there is no real correlation between tip amount and quality of service (meaning people generally tip the same regardless of their experience), the expectation of the tip creates a culture of good service that the United States is known for. On a similar note:


Tipping = Longer Hours and Better Food


Through tipping, some of the restaurant owner’s costs are passed on to you (more on this later, don’t panic), so they can keep employees there longer, keep the bar open later, and keep serving food past 9 PM when most other businesses are closed. This also means they can afford better, higher quality ingredients for your food without charging exorbitant menu prices; something we’ve come to expect in this age of eating out five nights a week. If servers weren’t compensated with tips, the owners would have to absorb the cost of their labor and believe me, they’re not just going to eat that money.  They’re going to shorten hours, reduce quality, and:




Raise Menu Prices!


Of all the reasons why tipping is good for the consumer, this is perhaps the most compelling: even if the world tilted on its axis and hundreds of years of culturally ingrained habit went out the window tomorrow, YOU WOULD STILL HAVE TO PAY THE SAME AMOUNT OF MONEY FOR YOUR MEAL. Yes, that’s right. For those of you who are fond of the arguments “why should I pay you for doing a good job?” or “I don’t get tips, why should you?” I say this: if tipping were actually abolished, menu prices would simply be raised.  




I’m not guessing on this one. Recently, several prominent restaurant groups have gotten rid of tipping with the goal of wrangling in the pay gap between staff members and creating a fairer system that rewards skill and seniority. Addressing these real problems within the industry is a worthy goal, however to accomplish said goal, they raised menu prices. As a consequence, many establishments experienced a high turnover of staff and had to reign in their new policies.  

So, wouldn’t you rather just give that money directly to your server or bartender to ensure good, friendly service since you have to pay it either way?




And Finally,


There are those who say that serving and bartending is unskilled. Firstly, the concept of skilled and unskilled is an incredibly outdated and classist way to view the job market. Sure, I obviously know there are differences between my bartending job and the daily life of a neurosurgeon. However, I would argue that not just anyone can handle the complexities of working in a restaurant and it is something that must be learned through time and experience.

Secondly, bartending and serving are considered ‘semi-skilled’ work by the Social Security Office and are sometimes referred to as ‘trades’. So until there is a balance struck between wage laws and restaurant costs, it is in the consumer’s best interest to continue leaving that 20%.


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You are looking to have an enjoyable time at your local bar. The best times typically involve good customer service.  A good bartender tip is to know it's all about the cash.


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Bartenders know nothing about you when you first meet. The only thing they are likely to remember are how much you tipped them (if you did) and what you ordered.  

If you don't tip, chances are they won’t have fond memories of you. Bartenders determine who gets priority by those helping them earn a living. While your having fun at the bar, bartenders are working to pay the bills. The best way for you to get their attention is by taking care of them.

Check out a few things to remember when your at the bar.



Bartender Tip: Make sure they see you


If you just leave your tip on the table after they gave you your order, you never gave the bartender/customer relationship time to develop. And if they are busy, chances are they will have no idea who left the tip.

Give them a tip as soon as you order. This way, they know where it was coming from and are more likely to pay attention to you once the bar gets busy.



Bartender Tip: Provide Gratuity in Cash


Even if you plan to tip well when closing out your credit card tab, remember that bartenders don’t know that. You just spent your entire time at the bar not giving the bartender any assurances that you are not cheap and plan to tip well.

A good strategy is to pay for your first few drinks in cash. Even if you plan to use a credit card to pay the entirety of the bill. This shows the bartender you appreciate them and their service.  

Be mindful, it’s not always the same bartenders taking care of the same individual. Oftentimes credit card tips end up being split amongst all the bartenders during that shift. So even if you tip well, it won’t matter to that particular bartender since they only get a part of that tip. Cash may be split too, but at least they will be able to take home those tips the same day.  


Bartender Tip: Designate One Person to Buy Drinks


Don’t confuse the bartender. If you’re with a group, try to assign one person in particular to buy the drinks. The bartender probably has no clue who you’re with. They aren’t going to acknowledge you as being with your friend who just tipped them 10 minutes ago.  

If you plan to rotate who takes care of the drinks in any given outing, be sure to introduce the “new person.” The bartender need to know your friends of friends who tipped well last time. As time goes on, the bartender will eventually remember your group and know they can count on you all as reliable customers for bartender tips. This ensures that all of you get well taken care of by that bartender whenever you are out.  



Bartender Tip: Cash is King


Remember when you tip via credit card, that income is taxable and the bartenders don’t make as much. Understand they may not be able to take the tips home for the night. And when you mess with a bartender’s money, that takes the excitement and fun out of the job. If you are headed to the bar, take some cash and look forward to having a better time out.


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Depending on where you are in the world, tipping varies. In the United Kingdom, you don’t tip in cash, but you would offer your bartender a drink. In Japan, tipping is an insult.  


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But, if you are in the United States and Canada, tipping is expected. Here are some of my top tips for tipping bartenders.

No one ever gets poor because of a generous tip.  Basically, tipping is a way of showing appreciation for the excellent service and attention from your bartender and besides, lack of tipping is just bad karma.



While considering how much to tip for your bartender, it is important to remember that they rarely receive health insurance or paid leave. In reality, a bartender position offers very little job security. And the lack of this steady income along with the lack of benefits is why bartenders rely heavily on their tips, in order to pay the bills.


Tips for Tipping Bartenders


“Do” and “Don’ts”


1.  Don’t hold the bartender personally responsible and dock his/her tip.  If you have to wait a while before being acknowledged and served, understand that a busy bar just means that you have entered a good establishment.

2.  Do tip per drink.  $1 to $2 for a draft beer is customary, more complex drinks should be tipped $2 to $3 each.  Basically, the longer the bartender spends on preparing your drink, the higher the tip should be.

3.  Do know when to tip more.  Happy hour is time to enjoy discounted cocktails, but tipping should be increased, as the bartender’s time is not discounted.  $2 per drink is appropriate in these situations, and if you are paying via a credit card, then a 25% (instead of the standard 20%) tip is appropriate and appreciated.

4.  Don’t point out your tip to the bartender.  We know that you want to be recognized for your generosity, and believe me; a good bartender knows who is leaving how much.




“Don’ts” and “Do”


5.  Do tip more for over-the-top customer service.  If your drink was made perfect, and service was quicker than expected, it is advised to reward the bartender for this extra attention to detail.

6.  Don’t leave money on the bar, as this is considered a tip for the bar-back and bartenders.  Only leave money on the bar that is intended as tip, all other cash should be promptly put back in your pocket.



7.  Don’t make any excuse for not leaving a tip.  If you do not plan on tipping, just leave quietly, and avoid embarrassing yourself.  Some popular excuses that bartenders have heard include, but are certainly not limited to:


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